Here’s a familiar, yet until recently almost–never-talked-about scenario.
Billy is 10 years old. He has freckles, wears a baseball cap almost all of the time, and has a best friend named Pete. When he’s happy, there’s no one better. He’s kind, empathic, playful, funny and fun-loving.
Since there are only so many hours in the day, we figured that all the hours spent on the Internet must be subtracted from some other activity.
None of us can remember our very first family dinners. I’m thinking of the meals we had in the dark, cozy confines of the womb, where we swallowed the flavors of chicken curry or matzoh ball soup, or whatever our mother had eaten for dinner.
OK, let’s talk about oppositional behavior in young kids. Here’s a particularly unpleasant scenario.
You go to pick little Timmy up from preschool, and the teacher asks to have a word with you. Uh-oh. Feels like being called to meet with the principal.
There’s no doubt about the recommendations. Most experts in neurodevelopment suggest that kids stay away from American contact sports, like tackle football, until they are at least 14 years old.
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I recall sort of blowing off my concerns that my older daughter wouldn’t welcome her soon-to-be-born sibling. After all, I have a sister, and we get along OK.
Lots of people have siblings. How bad can it be?
One of my mentors helped me to think about this using a simple and telling thought experiment.
Young kids are not the most civilized dinner companions. Dinnertime can sometimes feel like sitting with a group of monkeys who like to throw and smear their food, and who have short attention spans once they are done eating. But, this is a critical time for developing family meals as a ritual.
We emphasize often the emotional weight that every child carries. About 1 in 5 kids will have a psychiatric disorder at some point during their childhood or adolescence. But, if you really want to talk high numbers, take a look at divorce.
When a family member dies, it can be one of the hardest times to manage. That pretty much goes without saying.
Online communication can bring mischief and even serious trouble to peers and colleagues because it invites far more disinhibition than face-to-face conversation.