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Anorexia Nervosa deeply affects everyone.
When I was a ninth grader in 1964, I was suspended from school for selling peace buttons for the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee.
I was a tad anxious about how my mom would react, but when I came home that morning, she was beaming.
Brenda was a typical sixth grader in every way but one: she faced incredible difficulty in math class. She was a very good reader and writer, and in fact a very good student in every way – except when she entered Mr. Barnard’s classroom.
There was this song that came out when I was 13 years old. It was by Dan Folgelberg, and I played it over and over again on my Pioneer turntable. It went like this:
“Longer than there’s been fishes in the ocean. Higher than any bird every flew. Longer than there’s been stars up in the heavens. I’ve been in love with you.
Most kids and young adults look forward to going back to school. But for those with social anxiety, school and all that comes with it can literally provoke dread.
I’m going to show you what I mean. Let’s consider Sally.
Sally is a sweet, sensitive, likeable 16-year-old girl.
You would have to be completely unplugged to have missed the heightened reports of sexually coercive behavior among celebrities, prominent media figures, and politicians. Indeed, the seemingly sudden explosion of public knowledge of these deplorable actions might lead you to believe that we are encountering a new phenomenon.
My friend Samantha called me in a panic. Her 8-year-old daughter, Lindsey, was struggling with the fact that her parents were getting divorced. There had been a lot of conflict in the marriage. Samantha’s ex-husband was an alcoholic and, though he was receiving treatment, he had been frequently unemployed.
Back to school.
For seniors, it’s often a stressful time as they prepare for a new era in life after high school, but also one of enthusiasm as they feel a greater sense of confidence and autonomy.
It’s also a time parents worry more – about their teens’ future and about risky behaviors.
Here in New England, it’s getting just a little bit cooler. The shadows are growing longer, and there’s the tiniest sting to the morning breeze. I know that in other parts of the country it’s still pretty hot, but I bet folks are realizing some kind of change in the air.
After all, fall is just around the corner.
Hans Selye, a Hungarian scientist who was a pioneer in modern stress research, was quoted as saying:
“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.”
Today, 75 years after he made that statement, it rings as true as ever.